This is on my mind a lot lately and got multiple variations of this advice. Another example went something like 'you want to look like you're talking with friends over dinner' when doing relatable material (as opposed to the ted talk style I was doing).
The problem I'm have with that cue is that people wouldnt be able to hear me at the back of the room when I'm having dinner.
I guess what I'm finding difficult is what I should be aiming for mentally, when doing this:
> That being said, you are still doing a performance, so you need to perform to the back of the room. You need to be clear and emphasise. You need to really performing your material.
It's like okay don't do eddy murphy, but also don't do inside voice, but what *do* I do? Another way of putting it: it's hard to execute a negative cue (it shouldnt feel like x or y) in the moment, it's much easier to follow a positive one (it should feel like z)
Does that make any sense? I have a feeling this is just an experience thing, but I think it would be very helpful to beginners if you could say more about this.
Hi this makes loads of sense. I would say definitely lean towards inside voice than outer Eddie. The rest of it is just the same head noise everyone has of "why aren't I perfect yet??" You've gotta just keep going. The voices don't go away but you just don't pay them as much attention.
Thanks for the essay. A lot of what you're talking about applies to being yourself in everyday life too. I feel like in certain situations (meeting new people, working a service job, playing a song for people), I find myself clicking into performance mode and the jester voice comes out a little. And I've been working on stopping myself from clicking into jester mode, but it's a tough habit to break if you have it.
I do find people laugh in moments where I've dropped my guard and spoke without thinking at all. So I totally resonate with what you're saying "look out for the moments people laugh but there wasn’t a punchline". Keep up the good work!
Thanks for the message. I think lots of people do that. Perhaps try being gently self-deprecating in your own voice when you notice yourself doing that. "I'm joking because I want to fit in!" "Do you like me yet?"
This is on my mind a lot lately and got multiple variations of this advice. Another example went something like 'you want to look like you're talking with friends over dinner' when doing relatable material (as opposed to the ted talk style I was doing).
The problem I'm have with that cue is that people wouldnt be able to hear me at the back of the room when I'm having dinner.
I guess what I'm finding difficult is what I should be aiming for mentally, when doing this:
> That being said, you are still doing a performance, so you need to perform to the back of the room. You need to be clear and emphasise. You need to really performing your material.
It's like okay don't do eddy murphy, but also don't do inside voice, but what *do* I do? Another way of putting it: it's hard to execute a negative cue (it shouldnt feel like x or y) in the moment, it's much easier to follow a positive one (it should feel like z)
Does that make any sense? I have a feeling this is just an experience thing, but I think it would be very helpful to beginners if you could say more about this.
Hi this makes loads of sense. I would say definitely lean towards inside voice than outer Eddie. The rest of it is just the same head noise everyone has of "why aren't I perfect yet??" You've gotta just keep going. The voices don't go away but you just don't pay them as much attention.
Fair enough, thanks for the reply!
Thanks for the essay. A lot of what you're talking about applies to being yourself in everyday life too. I feel like in certain situations (meeting new people, working a service job, playing a song for people), I find myself clicking into performance mode and the jester voice comes out a little. And I've been working on stopping myself from clicking into jester mode, but it's a tough habit to break if you have it.
I do find people laugh in moments where I've dropped my guard and spoke without thinking at all. So I totally resonate with what you're saying "look out for the moments people laugh but there wasn’t a punchline". Keep up the good work!
Thanks for the message. I think lots of people do that. Perhaps try being gently self-deprecating in your own voice when you notice yourself doing that. "I'm joking because I want to fit in!" "Do you like me yet?"